Hello! Welcome Back! With Valentine’s Day being this week I thought it would be appropriate to talk about love… whether that be an act self-love or an act of love for another person, just spreading love. I have always believed the world could use a little more love thrown around. We should strive to always show love to ourselves and other people but that can sometimes be challenging and Valentine’s Day is a perfect place to start. So today I am going to talk about 5 things you can do to either show yourself some love or show love to another person. Let’s get started!
1. Get your body moving
Getting your body moving and getting clean air into your lungs is a great way to show yourself some love. Now I’m not saying you have to do a bootcamp like exercise because trust me that’s the last thing I would want to do. I’m talking more along the lines of doing some gentle yoga, going for a walk by yourself or with your dog. I have been enjoying doing yoga recently. Knowing I am making the choice to take time out of my day for myself to show my body some love helps my mind be clearer and makes me feel good.
2. Call a friend
Life can get really busy meaning our relationships and friendships can sometimes fall to the wayside. I think it’s important to remember to make the people we consider important in our lives a priority even when things get busy. Calling a friend you maybe haven’t spoken too is always refreshing for not only yourself but for the other person as well. By you calling and saying “hey just checking on how you’re doing” you may be allowing that person to take a second to breathe and talk about things they wouldn’t have otherwise taken the time to talk about.
3. Take a bubble bath
I’m sure we’ve all seen that picture on Facebook that starts off by saying “Self care isn’t always Lush Bath bombs *insert rest of the quote that I can’t remember*” and while yes, that is correct it’s not ALWAYS Lush Bath bombs but sometimes it is. Run yourself a nice bubble bath, fill the bathroom with candles, bring in your favorite book or watch Netflix on your laptop and relax. Adding onto that, after you get out of the bath moisturize your skin. Really take your time with it paying close attention to what areas maybe feel dryer then other or give yourself a little massage.
4. Give someone a compliment
This one may seem kinda silly but I promise you, you’ll feel good and so will the person receiving the compliment. Everyone loves to hear positive things about themselves. Even if you hate having attention on you, we are all a little bit narcissistic. Tell your co-worker you like their outfit or tell you parents you really enjoy what they cooked for dinner (those are obviously just examples don’t go lying to your mom about liking dinner if you didn’t actually like dinner.) We are all in our heads a lot saying negative things about ourselves, so recognizing that and telling someone something positive about themselves could potentially change their whole outlook on the day.
5. Allow yourself to feel (unapologetically)
I think that allowing yourself to feel your emotions is probably the biggest act of self-love you can give yourself. A lot of times we have this “tough guy” mentality where we push down and avoid a lot of our feelings. For starters avoiding your feelings never works and two it’s not healthy to avoid them. If you are feeling sad ALLOW yourself to be sad without feeling guilty about it. If you allow yourself to feel your emotions you’ll have a better chance of figuring out what’s making you feel sad or angry and then can come up with the best way to fix it for YOU. (disclaimer; if you are feeling sad or depressed and you can’t seem to fix it on your own, it’s okay to ask for help.) This doesn’t apply to just being sad though, if you’re happy or excited allow yourself to be without worrying how others are going to react. No one wants to say “Oh I wish I had danced more at that concert but I was too worried that people around me would think I was weird.” Dance, scream, cry, laugh, smile, FEEL.
Those are just a few things you can do to show yourself love or show love to someone else. There are millions of other ways to show love, some are really simple while others take a little more diligence it’s all about what works for you. Leave me a comment of something you do as an act of self-love or like this post if you enjoyed reading it. I am really working on fully loving myself this year so I would love to try some of your suggestions! Thank you so much for reading I appreciate all of you, Happy Valentines Day. Until next time…
Be Nice. Be Good.