Hello! Welcome Back! I hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend. Today, I wanted to talk about something the crosses everyone’s mind at some point or another. What is success? Am I going to be successful? Am I already successful? We are going to dive into all those commonly asked questions and more. We‘re gonna to touch on what I personally define as success and I‘d love it if you all got involved & left me a comment of what you think success is!
Society puts a lot of pressure on the word success and what it actually means. In our society it seems to mean having a high title at a job or having a lot of money. Dictionary.com define success as “the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals.” That’s simple enough to understand, so why does society mainly only put wealthy high executives in the category of successful? Is it because they accomplished their goals and got a big pay off for it? Most likely, yes. Rightfully so since they fit the dictionary definition of success. They have earned that title, but what if you have different goals? Simpler goals and what if you accomplish them? Can you still be called successful?
I believe you can, I believe success is different for every person and that makes it exciting. Now let’s not forget that while it’s exciting it can also be daunting. The pressure society puts on the word and the examples attached to the word can really discourage someone. Not to mention the affects social media has on us when our life or our “success” doesn’t look like someone else’s. This can really hinder someone from reaching their full potential because we compare ourselves to others constantly. I know I’ll look at people that I went to high school with and see that they are living in California working for TV stations or are living in a different country. That then leads to me spiraling into that dangerous place of self negativity for not being as “successful” as they are. I’ll even do that with my blog. I’ll look at another bloggers instagram who is about my age and feel defeated because they have thousands of followers and I don’t even have 50. My point with these examples is, it’s really tough to not be defeated by the word success because we have been programmed to believe it’s this big lavish life but it doesn’t have to be. Would it be nice to have thousands of followers? Absolutely it would, i’d be lying if I said no. The more followers you have the more chances you have to positively impact someone’s life, and I think most bloggers can agree, that’s our main goal. However, for me if I help one person with what I post, make them smile for a few minutes; then I have accomplished my goal and achieved success.
So, Am I successful? Kind Of. I’m not the dictionary definition of successful, I haven’t even scratched the surface of all the goals I want to accomplish I’m only 23. I’m still figuring out what path I want to go down for the rest of my life and that’s okay. I haven’t branched out much in the world yet simply because I haven’t had the ability too. That being said, there are factors of my life that I do believe I’ve achieved success in. I’ve had successful friendships lasting 17 years and counting. I’ve had academic success by graduating college with a 3.2 GPA but, I’m still on my journey. Over the past year my definition of success has changed a lot. I’ve started appreciating the smaller successes because, sometimes (most of the time) those are the ones that lead to something bigger. Being successful to me, is living a life full of happiness and love. Being true to myself is more important to me than any high title. Having people who make me laugh till my sides hurt or hold me while I cry till my sides hurt is more important to me than any big house. I feel that happiness & love/compassion are values that often get forgotten in this fast pace life but, for me keeping them at the core of everything I do is how I’m going to live a successful life.
Success is a complex word, with so many different meanings it’s easy to get lost in the weight of the word. People are going to tell you that you’re not successful a lot throughout your life, so many times you’ll probably lose count. What they actually mean is, you don’t fit what THEY define as successful. Lucky for you, success is a word only YOU can define for yourself. It doesn’t have to be the conventional example of success, as long as it brings you happiness and you’ve done your best…you’ve succeeded. It’s important to remember that there is no timeline for success. Success doesn’t care whether you’re 23 or 53, it’s still achievable.
So I ask you again, what is success to you? Are you successful? Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear from you! I do my best to post weekly so be sure to follow so you never miss a post! Thank you for stopping by, I hope you enjoyed! Until next time…
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