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Low Battery: 5 things that drain our energy

Hello! Welcome Back! The other day as I was driving to work I was listening to the radio. Usually if they are on a commercial break or the hosts are talking, I change the station because I need music to dance to in order to stay awake! However this particular morning I couldn’t be bothered to change the station and I’m very glad for that. The host was talking about 5 things (okay technically it’s 6 but I was still half asleep so I only remember 5) we do that drains the energy out of us. I thought it might be interesting to hear but didn’t expect to relate to any of them. The first thing she said was, taking things to personally. Okay lucky guess I can relate to that. Then she said, worrying too much…now i’m getting a little creeped out. The other three things she said that drains our energy are overthinking, being negative and people pleasing. Check. Check. Check. I do ALL those things and even though I get 7-8 hours of sleep a night I’m always exhausted. Chances are we all do one, if not more then one of these things and it contributes to our lack of energy.

Taking Things Too Personally

I am a sensitive person and I’m not ashamed of that in anyway. Being sensitive helps me relate to other people and have deeper connections within relationships. However, I have to be handled with care because I hold onto everything people say to me, mostly the negative things. This can kind of go hand in hand with my previous post on Intention vs. Delivery. Since I take things so personally, the delivery of a message is crucial to how I perceive it. For example, someone could tell me an outfit that I am wearing is unflattering, yet in my head I would think they are calling me a beached whale. Being sensitive isn’t something I want to change about myself, but taking things so personally is. Holding onto the “not so nice” things people say or taking a joke the “wrong way” can drain a person.

Worrying too much

I’m gonna pull the Virgo card on this one and act like I have no control over it. I am constantly worrying over the simplest of things. Even if I don’t know what I’m worrying about, something is running through my mind stressing me out. Before potential plans or situations are set in stone, I’m worrying about them. Thinking about the what ifs before the situation or plan is even a “thing.” Has this ever happened to you? Once your mind starts going, it’s nearly impossible to slow it down? Worrying is probably one of my biggest flaws especially since it’s not good for your health. My apprehension about these “what ifs”  is one reason I started practicing at home yoga right before bed. Practicing yoga before bed helps slow down my mind even just a little bit. I’ve had to invest the time into finding things that help me relax for my overall well being. It was one of the best things I could have done for myself, and I highly recommend you spend some time figuring out what brings you a sense of calm.


This can go hand in hand with the last one and it’s one I’m sure a lot of us do. Overthinking is something that can cause us unnecessary doubt and essentially is our a roadblock to our success. As they say in the Paramore song, Caught in the Middle,“No, I don’t need no help. I can sabotage me by myself.” For me, I make things so much harder for myself by overthinking. I will take something small and make it larger than life. Overthinking is a mixture of taking things too personally and worrying. For example, I will take the tone of how someone said something and over analyze it until I’m blue in the face. Something as small as how someone texts can have me thinking about all the things I could have possibly done wrong. When I find myself doing this, I have to rationalize with myself and remind myself that I didn’t do anything wrong. Life just gets busy. You have to find the strength inside of you to reassure yourself when you start overthinking.

Being negative

This one is a little iffy for me because I would like to believe I’m a pretty positive person. I think even my friends would say overall I’m a positive person. Sometimes we’re just in a negative part of our lives. It’s no surprise that being depressed makes you have a more negative outlook on life. You feel helpless and hopeless, nothing about either of those emotions allows you to be positive. That doesn’t mean, we give it our all to be positive. I can feel the drastic effects of being negative compared to having positive outlook. I instantly have a lot more energy and motivation when I change my thought process and think positively. There are a lot of things in life that can cause you to be negative or have a negative outlook. Family issues, career uncertainty, world leaders, the list could go on and on. It’s not realistic to be positive all the time. When you do find yourself being negative, see if there is a way you can change your outlook to a more positive one. Look inside yourself and see if there are things your holding onto that are causing you to look at the world with a negative view. Not only will you have more energy, you’ll have better connections with people, because no one likes a debbie downer who finds the negative in every situation.

People pleasing

I touched on how I am a people pleaser in my I Feel Lost post which you can find here if you haven’t read it yet. I’ve been a people pleaser since day one, and I can tell you it as exhausting as it sounds. You aren’t living your life for yourself, you’re living for the approval of others and that gets old quickly. You’re never going to be able to please everyone, that’s just a fact of life. I think you’ll find, myself included that accepting it’s okay to not please everyone and being okay with that will allow us to have a lot more energy. Whenever I’m feeling drained from living for others, I come to the realization that I would never want someone to live their life searching for the approval of ME. So why do I spend so much time searching for the approval of THEM? It gets me no where besides feeling inadequate and needing a nap.

There are a lot of factors in life that are going to cause us to have a lack energy, that’s apart of life. However, I found it really interesting to hear about the impact these five things have on our mental and physical energy. Do you find yourself feeling like you need to go on Power Save Mode because your battery is running low? Do you relate to any of these 5 things and how do they contribute to that lack of energy? Let’s have a discussion in the comments! I’d love to hear your thoughts! Thanks for stopping by. Until next time…

Be Nice. Be Good.

-Mich. x

Simply Michelle

Hi! I’m Mich. I’m a 26 year old young woman trying to navigate adulthood and all the challenges it brings. On Simply Michelle you will find genuine posts about a wide range of topics from mental health & faith to makeup & baking. This is my safe place to be vulnerable and hopefully you'll feel that you can do the same. I hope you stick around!

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  1. jeannecriswell says:

    We can be our own worst enemies sometimes. I know I have to find a way to be positive sometime to keep my energy up.

    1. that’s so very true, we are either our own biggest hype man or worst enemy. seems like there’s really no in between!

  2. YES TO THIS POST. I can relate to these so much and it sucks how much energy it take out of me. Sometimes in life there are negative days and even weeks but that one positive thing makes everything better. Thank you for this post for reminding me it’s okay to take time out for myself when I need to 💕

    Samantha |

    1. absolutely taking time for yourself is so important for your health, while we as humans do feed off of social interaction we sometimes need a break from that. especially with all the outside factors that effect us everyday. im glad you got something out of today’s post xx

  3. Hey Michelle! My issue is being a people pleaser. I always feel guilty when I may have to reschedule plans or do something later. But I learned that it’s best for me to take time for myself and give 100% commitment with a good attitude than to do the activity when I’m too tired just to please someone else in the moment. You shared great tips helpful and relatable to everyone.

    Natonya |

    1. yes i agree, especially if you’re spending time with someone close to you they’ll be able to tell if you are just doing something to please them, and no one likes to feel like an obligation. it ends up being a lose lose for everyone x

  4. Sometimes being positive feels so hard and I’m not sure why! Life is amazing. This post is a good reminder to be conscious of these things so that I can make tiny changes and stop draining my energy!

    1. we’re all human and it’s normal to be negative but yes like you said as long as we’re conscious of these things i think that’s one step in the right direction xx

  5. Enjoyed your post! I have my own retail business and it is tough to stay positive some days. Dealing with the public can be a challenge and it can also drain you. But, I try to remind myself to stay positive and smile. Yes, a smile is contagious!

    1. I totally agree working with the public can totally drain you, i am the manager of a small beauty store so I completely understand! I always try to kill em with kindness

  6. This was really interesting!☺️

    1. Thank you xx I’m glad you enjoyed

  7. I’m a Virgo too, and I should really start pulling the Virgo card to justify my worrying 😉 these are great tips! I stopped people pleasing a while ago and it’s made alllll the difference

    Jas xx

    1. I have so much respect for you having stopped people pleasing, i always feel so silly when i realize i’m doing it because it is silly! Also wave that Virgo cars loud and proud girlfriend xxx

  8. YES so much this. It’s difficult not to do these five things sometimes though. Awareness that you’re actually doing it helps.
    Cora |

    1. I completely agree, it’s especially challenging since they can all overlap one another! thanks so much for your kind words xx

  9. Lisa's Notebook says:

    OMG, this post is brilliant! I am so guilty of overthinking and to taking things too personally, my husband gets really annoyed with me. Thank you so much for writing this to remind me that I need to put myself first sometimes. I’m bookmarking it to reread when I need a boost xx

    Lisa |

    1. thank you so much, this comment really made me smile. im so glad you were able to connect with it so personally! I plan on coming back to this post as well for when i myself need a boost! 💓💓

  10. Creative Nails says:

    Oh my, I can relate to this post sooo much! Literally reading all the sections thinking “yep, that’s me”! I am pretty sensitive person too and I also don’t see it as a bad thing because it does have it’s benefits, as you said, we can relate so much to other people and have the deeper connections with people which I see being such a huge thing sometimes. I worry sooo much and overthink so many things, I’ve been trying to be a bit better with it recently but it’s a lot of work!


    1. yes it’s definitely challenging to change your ways once you’re so use to doing them. i commend you for making the efforts to change xx

  11. I’m guilty of doing all these five energy draining things and ending up getting depressed. It takes a lot of effort to think positively and put self first before pleasing others. Great post!

    1. I completely agree, i suffer from depression as well. now that you are aware that you also do these things, just take it one day at a time. sending you lots of love and positive thoughts 💓💓

  12. I do all of these things other than taking things too personally. This was really interesting. Like you, I thought I wouldn’t really relate to this post. Haha wrong! This is definitely something I’m going to think about going forward x


    1. it caught me off guard when i related to them so much, i felt like the radio host was calling me out 😂 im glad you were able to take something from this x

  13. These are spot on! They all lead to dead ends, too. Thank you for the things to give myself a check on!

    1. yes they absolutely lead to dead ends! i’m glad you were able to get something out of this post! x

  14. Hi Michelle, what an amazing post and I can totally relate. I’m always a big people pleaser and sometimes I’m just too tired and don’t want to care anymore!

    1. I completely agree, it’s so silly to care so much but for some reason you can’t stop yourself!

  15. ch3ls3awht3 says:

    I relate to this… too much! I over think, I’m a people-pleaser, I worry, and I take things too personally! And it is draining! I’m definitely a work in progress when it comes to taking care of myself.

    1. It’s okay we’re all a work in progress, we all can ask of ourselves is to do our best everyday xx

  16. Veronika says:

    I was trying to think of one point that I especially agree with, but I can relate to them all! It’s mainly a toss up between worrying too much and pleasing people. Tvhese two go hand in hand with me!

  17. You told me about things that are close to me, too. I work on myself and try to learn to relax. Because my brains scrolling one and the same situation again and again.

  18. abbiejadewanders says:

    I think in one way or another I am guilty of all of these! Particularly overthinking. If I get worried about something I overthink it crazy amounts and then don’t sleep as I get myself in such a state about things. Thankyou for sharing this, sometimes it’s nice to know you’re not the only one! xx

  19. Yes to all of this. I suffer with anxiety, so I can’t help but worry about everything and overthinking is my biggest downfall. So unfortunately, it’s not as easy for some to break these energy draining habits! I also find too much social media a bit draining too!

    1. I completely agree, i still struggle daily to not worry or overthink everything! social media has a huge draining affect, seems like it’s being filled with more negativity everyday!

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