Hello! Welcome Back! The other day as I was driving to work I was listening to the radio. Usually if they are on a commercial break or the hosts are talking, I change the station because I need music to dance to in order to stay awake! However this particular morning I couldn’t be bothered to change the station and I’m very glad for that. The host was talking about 5 things (okay technically it’s 6 but I was still half asleep so I only remember 5) we do that drains the energy out of us. I thought it might be interesting to hear but didn’t expect to relate to any of them. The first thing she said was, taking things to personally. Okay lucky guess I can relate to that. Then she said, worrying too much…now i’m getting a little creeped out. The other three things she said that drains our energy are overthinking, being negative and people pleasing. Check. Check. Check. I do ALL those things and even though I get 7-8 hours of sleep a night I’m always exhausted. Chances are we all do one, if not more then one of these things and it contributes to our lack of energy.
Taking Things Too Personally
I am a sensitive person and I’m not ashamed of that in anyway. Being sensitive helps me relate to other people and have deeper connections within relationships. However, I have to be handled with care because I hold onto everything people say to me, mostly the negative things. This can kind of go hand in hand with my previous post on Intention vs. Delivery. Since I take things so personally, the delivery of a message is crucial to how I perceive it. For example, someone could tell me an outfit that I am wearing is unflattering, yet in my head I would think they are calling me a beached whale. Being sensitive isn’t something I want to change about myself, but taking things so personally is. Holding onto the “not so nice” things people say or taking a joke the “wrong way” can drain a person.
Worrying too much
I’m gonna pull the Virgo card on this one and act like I have no control over it. I am constantly worrying over the simplest of things. Even if I don’t know what I’m worrying about, something is running through my mind stressing me out. Before potential plans or situations are set in stone, I’m worrying about them. Thinking about the what ifs before the situation or plan is even a “thing.” Has this ever happened to you? Once your mind starts going, it’s nearly impossible to slow it down? Worrying is probably one of my biggest flaws especially since it’s not good for your health. My apprehension about these “what ifs” is one reason I started practicing at home yoga right before bed. Practicing yoga before bed helps slow down my mind even just a little bit. I’ve had to invest the time into finding things that help me relax for my overall well being. It was one of the best things I could have done for myself, and I highly recommend you spend some time figuring out what brings you a sense of calm.
This can go hand in hand with the last one and it’s one I’m sure a lot of us do. Overthinking is something that can cause us unnecessary doubt and essentially is our a roadblock to our success. As they say in the Paramore song, Caught in the Middle,“No, I don’t need no help. I can sabotage me by myself.” For me, I make things so much harder for myself by overthinking. I will take something small and make it larger than life. Overthinking is a mixture of taking things too personally and worrying. For example, I will take the tone of how someone said something and over analyze it until I’m blue in the face. Something as small as how someone texts can have me thinking about all the things I could have possibly done wrong. When I find myself doing this, I have to rationalize with myself and remind myself that I didn’t do anything wrong. Life just gets busy. You have to find the strength inside of you to reassure yourself when you start overthinking.
This one is a little iffy for me because I would like to believe I’m a pretty positive person. I think even my friends would say overall I’m a positive person. Sometimes we’re just in a negative part of our lives. It’s no surprise that being depressed makes you have a more negative outlook on life. You feel helpless and hopeless, nothing about either of those emotions allows you to be positive. That doesn’t mean, we give it our all to be positive. I can feel the drastic effects of being negative compared to having positive outlook. I instantly have a lot more energy and motivation when I change my thought process and think positively. There are a lot of things in life that can cause you to be negative or have a negative outlook. Family issues, career uncertainty, world leaders, the list could go on and on. It’s not realistic to be positive all the time. When you do find yourself being negative, see if there is a way you can change your outlook to a more positive one. Look inside yourself and see if there are things your holding onto that are causing you to look at the world with a negative view. Not only will you have more energy, you’ll have better connections with people, because no one likes a debbie downer who finds the negative in every situation.
I touched on how I am a people pleaser in my I Feel Lost post which you can find here if you haven’t read it yet. I’ve been a people pleaser since day one, and I can tell you it as exhausting as it sounds. You aren’t living your life for yourself, you’re living for the approval of others and that gets old quickly. You’re never going to be able to please everyone, that’s just a fact of life. I think you’ll find, myself included that accepting it’s okay to not please everyone and being okay with that will allow us to have a lot more energy. Whenever I’m feeling drained from living for others, I come to the realization that I would never want someone to live their life searching for the approval of ME. So why do I spend so much time searching for the approval of THEM? It gets me no where besides feeling inadequate and needing a nap.
There are a lot of factors in life that are going to cause us to have a lack energy, that’s apart of life. However, I found it really interesting to hear about the impact these five things have on our mental and physical energy. Do you find yourself feeling like you need to go on Power Save Mode because your battery is running low? Do you relate to any of these 5 things and how do they contribute to that lack of energy? Let’s have a discussion in the comments! I’d love to hear your thoughts! Thanks for stopping by. Until next time…
Be Nice. Be Good.