How to Find Your Purpose

Hello! Welcome Back, I hope this week is treating you well. These past couple weeks I have been really reflecting on my life and where I’m at. Things feel like there falling more and more into place while also feeling like a total mess all at the same time. Have you ever felt that? The past two years since moving home from college, I spent a lot of time feeling very alone. I didn’t have any friends at home, one of my biggest supporters who was usually around the corner was still in school. That made things very lonely and confusing. Combine that with dealing with the downfall of a toxic friendship and mental health issues…I felt I had no purpose. What do you do when you can’t figure out your purpose? How do you find your purpose?

Not knowing your purpose can be terrifying, or it could be freeing. You could take that as an open palette and explore everything and anything that you find interesting or you could go down the path I did, crippling depression.

I’m not shy when it comes too talking about my struggles with mental health here on my blog. It helps me and hopefully helps some of you. I spent every bit of a year feeling guilty about being depressed, thinking “things weren’t bad enough for me to be depressed.” I spent so much time trying to make a friendship work that wasn’t meant to work, and so much time trying to convince myself I wasn’t depressed I didn’t have any time or space to figure out what God had put me on this earth to do. I just graduated college, but I didn’t have a CLUE where to go next. In my darkest times I thought that maybe I wasn’t suppose to find my purpose, that the depression was suppose to win.

I don’t tell you this in hopes of you feeling bad for me about how deep into depression I fell. I tell you these personal struggles to remind you that this, obviously was not true. Of course God put me on this earth for a reason, of course the depression wasn’t meant to win. I can respect if you aren’t a religious person but, I believe God put all of us on this earth for a specific reason. The big question is, what is that reason and how do you figure it out? Do you ever really figure it out?

Being only 23, almost 24 I don’t think I’ve found my purpose yet or at least not all of them. Through my trials and tribulations, I am being molded into who I’m meant to be more everyday. Your purpose doesn’t have to be singular, you don’t just find your purpose and just stop growing & changing. You can have a different purpose throughout your different stages in life. For me, at this moment in my early 20’s my purpose is to put energy into helping others through my blog and learning to love myself. Many things in life have gotten in the way of me having unconditional love for myself, and sadly I know i’m not the only one who struggles with this. We won’t be able to reach the next stage in life if we are standing in our own way and depriving ourselves from unconditional love. One of the things that interfered with the love I have for myself was not knowing what do with my life. I spent so much time pretending I knew what my dreams were, because I was embarrassed about not knowing what I wanted to do. I keep asking, how do you find your purpose? How did I know the blogging was my purpose? I knew because of the feeling it gave me. It was something I did for myself, without trying to please my friends or family. It brought me joy and pride. Every time I post on my blog, I get this feeling in my chest that I’m being true to myself. Being able to express myself while also seeing the struggles I went through, help others or remind them they aren’t alone is how I knew. I’m no expert in mental health, but I have gained a lot of insight due to personal experiences that could potentially help someone. I would be doing a disservice to myself, to my readers and to My Lord if I didn’t follow through with this blog.

Finding your purpose is not going to be something that happens overnight. It takes a lot of time and self-reflection. Not knowing where to go in life or what your purpose is, can be a very unsettling feeling. It’s hard to not feel defeated when the stars are not aligning for you. Sometimes you have to get to rock bottom before you can start to find what your purpose is. Take it one day at a time and trust yourself & your higher power. Take little steps to add order into your life, like making your bed in the morning. Think about what weighs heavy on your heart, how can you make improvements for the greater good? Make lists of things that excite you, of good qualities your friends and family notice about you. If you can incorporate all these things in your daily life and keep trying your best everyday, your purpose will appear before you. Keep fighting. I believe in you. Thank you for stopping by…Until next time,

Be Nice. Be Good.

Mich. x

Simply Michelle

Hi! I’m Mich. I’m a 26 year old young woman trying to navigate adulthood and all the challenges it brings. On Simply Michelle you will find genuine posts about a wide range of topics from mental health & faith to makeup & baking. This is my safe place to be vulnerable and hopefully you'll feel that you can do the same. I hope you stick around!

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  1. Hey Michelle!! I wanted to say thank you for this post! I’m totally feeling the same way of like what do you want to do with your life etc and people asking what that may be! I have been reading every post when they come to my email and so want to start a blog myself because I have so much I want to say but Instagram just isn’t enough lol. I’ll take the plunge soon so if you have any tips I’d love them! Totally inspired by your posts!


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    1. Thank you for all the support!! I’m so glad I can help in some way! I think it’s great that you want to start a blog, you totally should! It’s a great way to get your thoughts out! I’m still learning with every post that I write but just taking the plunge was one of the best decisions i’ve ever made!

  2. I love these reflective/ life posts you’ve been doing. I can definitely relate to this. I turned 24 two weeks ago and have a lot of the same feelings as you regarding purpose. It’s such a tough area to navigate. I think my blog helps with that though! Such incredible tips at the end too x


    1. Thank you, they’ve been really helping me so it’s encouraging to know other people are enjoying them as well! It’s amazing what blogging can do for our lives x

  3. It’s so good that you’re so open about your mental health on here as I think it’ll inspire and help a lot of people! I, personally don’t actually think we have a purpose and I think that’s actually pretty wonderful. I feel like we’re just put here on earth to do what we can to enjoy ourselves and i feel like it relieves me of a lot of worries and anxieties in the grand scheme of things! It’s really lovely to read a different take on it and I wish you all the luck in your journey!
    Alice Xx

    1. Thank you, I agree it’s very wonderful to hear different takes on topics. especially when you do them in such a respectful manner like you did. thank you for sharing your view, wishing you all the luck as well xx

  4. Miss Blogs-A-Bit says:

    This was such a good read! A lot of it spoke to me. I have a few years on you, I’m mid 30s now and I still struggle at times with what my purpose in life is. It’s hard to make sense of things sometimes isn’t it? This last year especially I’ve really tried to focus on making myself happy for once instead of concentrating so much on pleasing others… it seems to be working somewhat!
    Great post, I’ve subscribed xx

    1. thank you! I think at every stage of life we’re gonna wonder if we’re doing this whole “life” thing right since we and the world around us are always changing. I’m happy to have you aboard for my journey thanks for subscribing xx

  5. This is such a thoughtful and well written post Mich! Its so relatable and I definitely know where you are coming from. I’m 32 and still have no idea what my purpose is. The quote which says that your purpose changes during different stages of your life is so reassuring. I’m glad we don’t need to settle on one thing but can keep changing over the years. Thank you for sharing <3 xx

    Bexa |

    1. Thank you! I agree it’s reassuring to know that you don’t have to stay “stuck” in one thing forever! xx

  6. Creative Nails says:

    This was so interesting to read – it’s really made me think while reading it and will definitely be on my mind for a while. I’m almost 24, and have no idea what my purpose would be at the moment. I do agree with the whole blog area though, it really is lovely creating your own content and being able to post it and share with others. Thank you for sharing 🙂


    1. Thank You! it’s something i have been thinking about for a while myself. I think blogging really does help us find ourselves ☺️

  7. I love this post! I’m 23 too and relate to this so much, I definitely feel like I haven’t found my purpose yet and have to keep telling myself that I’m still young(ish) and that it will come to me!

    Soph – x

    1. thank you! it absolutely will come to you, there is no time clock on when you need to have things “figured out” because let’s be honest i don’t think any of us ever fully have it figured out

  8. Sending you lots of love and positive vibes Mich. I know I can relate to this. Post college life can be really tough at times. Not enough people talk about how to prepare and overcome what happens right after college. Thanks for shedding light on this topic.

    With love,
    Kat |

    1. Thank you very much! I couldn’t agree more, you’re just kind of thrown into “being an adult” right after you graduate and are expected to know so many different things without having any experience! it’s frustrating!

  9. This is something I think about (and worry about) a lot actually and I tend to go through phases of wondering whether anything I’m doing actually matters (I recently wrote a long post about that actually). finding a purpose seems so daunting and although I love blogging I honestly don’t feel like I’ve found mine yet xxx

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