New Year, Same Me..Well Kinda.

Hello! Welcome Back and Happy New Year! I can’t believe we are in 2019. I know I’ve been saying that in all of my end of 2018 posts but seriously, it’s just so surreal to me. Anyways, I’m sure we have all been hearing a lot of talk about this whole “new year, new me” mindset. Personally, I really dislike that mindset and here’s why. I have to work very hard on believing in myself. For some reason (maybe because woman are taught to not believe in themselves?) I have a really hard time thinking highly of myself, or more so thinking I am enough. I’ve done a lot of work on learning that I am enough in 2018 and it’s something that I want to continue in 2019. So this “New Year, New Me” mindset makes me feel that the old us, wasn’t good enough and that we need to make a total 360° change now that it’s January 1st. That doesn’t mean that I don’t think we shouldn’t strive to be a better version of ourselves, I think we should do that everyday without a new year starting but, changing ourselves completely.. that’s what I don’t like. I am good enough the way that I am, you are good enough the way you are. This is why my motto or mantra whatever you’d like to call it for this year is New Year, Same Me just….growing. In this journey of continuing to grow as a young woman, I have set some goals for myself. I don’t really believe in setting resolutions, because again I think it comes from a place where we have this feeling that we need to change who we are and be this totally different person. Every other year, I would say that it’s my resolution to start working out but thats just not realistic for me because I hate exercising. I would stick to it for a few days but since it would come from a place of feeling like I HAD too I would give up on it, then I’d beat myself up for already failing at my resolution. So, this year I’m making goals that will in turn help me be the best version of myself. Total side note, I was talking to my fellow blogger friend Sophie on twitter yesterday about how hard it is to write short posts…so Sophie if you’re reading this, I haven’t even gotten into the point of this post and I’m already at 400 words. #longblogpostclubforlife Okay, okay I’ll get into it now.. these are a few of my goals for the new year.

Learn To Not Be So Hard On Myself

I don’t know about you but, I’m literally my own worst enemy. I try to build my life and my personality around being kind but when it comes to myself… I set such unrealistic goals that lead to me beating myself up. I set myself up for self sabotage, and I find that really sad. One place that I’m really going to work on this bad habit is within my blog, I really wanted to get this post up on New Years Day but clearly that didn’t happen. My whole family was home and I wanted to spend some time with them, so I worked on this post but didn’t force myself to finish it. Usually I would be really hard on myself about that, saying things to myself about how people aren’t going to continue to read my blog if I have too many days in between my uploads. I plan to learn that while I do my best to treat my blog like a business and think of it as one, I’m still a human and blogging is a lot of work. It’s okay if I upload a day, two days or ten days in-between each posts. I love my blog, and I love working on it..it’s a really great creative outlet for me but let’s be real I can’t burn myself out on something that isn’t making me money (yet). That being said, I also can’t burn myself out on something is making me money and I have to accept that it’s okay to say “no I’m not going to work on that today I need to rest.”

Triple My Yearly Views

I didn’t really mean for this to turn into goals that I have for my blog but I guess that’s what happens when your blog is your baby. I’ve spoken about what my views for 2018 were on my twitter, but I have decided that I’m gonna leave the number out of today’s post. I don’t ever want to contribute to someone’s self-doubt knowing how much I struggle with the exact same issue. I will just say that, I want to triple the amount of views that I got in 2018. I was only gonna stick to doubling it but I want to start the year off with dreaming big and believing in myself so I’m speaking tripling my views into existence.

Travel More

I honestly can’t tell you the last time I traveled, I mean I went to New York City this past fall but I don’t really consider that traveling because it was a day trip and NYC is only two hours away from me. I want to actually travel more this year, and explore more of this world. I know that costs money so I’ll start with exploring more of my country before I run across overseas, we will leave that for 2020. Compared to other years, I can already check this goal off as completed because I’ll be traveling cross country to be apart of my best friends wedding. I’ve already got it in my mind to write a blogpost about that trip and I can’t wait to share it with you guys. I would love to have other trips this year, finances allowing.

Find A Church I Connect With

I’ve not been shy when speaking about my faith here on my blog, in my Faith Journey I mention how for a while I didn’t connect with my church and how it really made me feel like a poor Christian. I really haven’t been to my church much in the past few years and while, I don’t think it makes me a bad Christian I would like to find a church I connect with. I think the idea of having people that believe the same things you do and live their lives around the same sets of morals as you, makes the growing up process easier. One of the issues I have with my church, is I feel people go out of habit and not because they really connect with what is being said by the pastor. I’m at an age now where I can find my own church family, I know who I am more and what I’m looking to get from my relationship with God. I’ve never looked for a new church so, if you have and you have any suggestions on where to start please let me know!

Learn Complete & Total Self-Love

I made a lot of progress in 2018 on my journey to self-love and I’m really proud of that. However, since my self-hatred was so deeply rooted, I still have work to do. I’m hoping that with me continuing to practice the same things as I did in 2018 and adding in some new ones this year, I’ll be able to achieve complete and total self-love. This goal is part of why I want to find a church I connect with, I think having a church family will really help me move forward in my self-love journey. This goal also ties in with my first goal of being less hard on myself. If I have the patience and grace with myself that I give to others, I’ll be able to see myself and my worth for what it truly is. I’m really excited to continue this journey of self-love, it still feels foreign but it also makes me very grateful which I think we could all benefit from feeling more of.

Those are my goals for the new year.. do you see now why I called this post New Year, Same Me…well Kinda? I don’t want to be a “New Michelle” 2018 taught me that I genuinely like her as she is, I have area’s that I can grow and improve in but so does everyone. What are your new year’s goals? How do you feel about the whole New Year, New Me mindset? Does it inspire you, or make you feel inferior? Let me know down in the comments.

Also, I don’t know if you’ve noticed I’ve got a new theme..what are your thoughts on it? Thanks for stopping by….until next time,

Be Nice. Be Good. 

Mich. x 

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Hi! I’m Michelle, but you can call me Mich. I’m just your normal 24 year old trying to figure out life and thought I’d share some of my experiences and interests with the world. This blog will cover all things under the sun from makeup favorites to mental health to religion and everything serious or not so serious in between! I want us to build a little community filled with love and support so please leave me comments and hit that follow button on your way out. This blog has a very special place in my heart and feels like a important part of my path in life so I hope you stay a while and check out what it’s like to be Simply Michelle. Be Nice. Be Good.

39 thoughts on “New Year, Same Me..Well Kinda.

  1. I hate the new year new me mindset as well! I prefer to think that I’m constantly improving throughout the year and not just because it’s January 1st. I wish you good luck on all your goals for the coming year and hope you find a church you are able to connect with. Something I too am looking for this year is to renegade with my own faith. Happy New Year!

  2. I feel the same as how you feel about the whole ‘new year, new me.’ I wouldn’t want to change myself, but it’s always good to strive to better myself and I wouldn’t want to do it just because it’s a new year, that’d be something I’m constantly working at. Love your goals, they’re great and I’m sure you’ll achieve them. I think I need to be kinder on myself, I need to learn that things don’t always go right and I just need to tell myself that things only get bad for that particular moment, things are changing constantly. Happy new year! And I love your new theme <3

    Chloe xx

  3. Lovely post Mich and I wish you the best with your 2019 goals! I love the idea of New Year – Same Me. I’ve always found it to be rather overwhelming to want a “new” you anyway, like it’s too much to achieve. Surely setting smaller, more realistic goals is the way forward?

    Like you, I really hope to travel more so fingers crossed. I’d also like to make more progress with my blog but that remains to be seen. I’ll definitely be working at it though!

    Happy new year lovely xx

    http://www.missblogsabit.com

    1. yes exactly! we are the way we are for a reason, it would be too much of a daunting task to completely change who we are and in my honest opinion it wouldn’t work either.

      i know you’ll make progress in your blog, and i’ll be rooting you on each step of the way! xx

  4. I could not agree more with what you said about growth and not being good enough the previous year. I think a new year is a perfect time to reflect and set new goals and targets without trying to change your entire existence. You’ve got some great goals for this year, good luck finding your church. That’s not something I know an awful lot about but I can’t imagine that it’s an easy task. And I’m sure you’ll reach your blogging goals too! Good luck with all of your growth this year, spiritually, mentally, physically, professionally…whatever your main one is, I’m rooting for you x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

  5. This is an amazing post Mich! I love that you’re moving away from the new year, new me mindset to accepting yourself and improving yourself. I’m totally sure you’ll meet your goals. If you don’t, I know you’ll not feel “less”. This is a really motivational post thank you. Happy New Year! 🎉🎊

    Taiwo xx

    1. thank you so much taiwo! i think it’s important to remember that getting to the “end” goal isn’t always the most important part but it’s the work you put in to get there that really shows growth xx

  6. I identify with much of this. With you completely about not letting the blog take over and become a stress. I don’t subscribe to the new year new me idea at all, but I did resolve to try to be nicer to the people I find hard and not to let them wind me up.

    1. ohhh jane that’s such a good one! i’m actually going to steal that and add it to my list, that’s the cool thing about not giving into that mindset you can constantly add new goals that just make you a better person, not a new person xxx

  7. I can totally relate to you on finding a great church to fellowship in. Hopefully this year you’ll find one where you can grow your relationship with Christ and be aided.
    Hope you meet all your goals
    Loren | Plaidandsugar.blogspot.ca

  8. I completely relate with your thoughts on New Year resolutions! I don’t want to change who I am but grow as a person. I have set a few goals for myself this year that I believe to be completely attainable. I don’t set too many as I feel as though that can set you up for failure. I wish you the best of luck this new year!

    1. I completely agree, I think it’s good to do smaller goals and then add on new goals if you’ve achieved some that your first set. that way you continue to grow up don’t overwhelm yourself xx

  9. I love your post! And I love traveling. That’s what I’ve just started my travel blog about my experiences. After living on an island for over 2 years my recent day trip to New York City also didn’t seem like a very cool adventure!
    I hope you find a good church! My biggest advice would be to find one with a strong young adult presence. That has definitely made a world of difference in my mental health upon moving back to America into Baltimore, Maryland!

  10. A road trip is a fabulous way to explore your own country. I know it’s a much smaller scale, but it’s the only way I get to see Britain.

    Good luck for the year!

    Georgia

  11. I’ve never been a fan of the “new year, new me” mindset. I think it forces people to hold themselves to unrealistic expectations, like the change of a day is going to convince them to succeed at everything they’ve been putting off for months. In saying that, I do think it can be a good time to create REALISTIC goals, which is something you touched upon in your post, as lots of people are doing so during the same time period and it can be a great way of gathering motivation. I know seeing other people’s posts has really helped me keep motivated with my blogging goals this year. I love the goals you’ve set, too; they sound super realistic based on the explanations you’ve provided. I love the one about getting triple the amount of blogging views this year; best of luck with that one!

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