Hey guys! Hope you’re well! I’ve always been honest with you guys when it comes to mental health, specifically my mental health. If you’re new here I suffer from Depression and Anxiety. I have for about three years and about a year and a half ago, went on medication for it. The past month or so has been the most stable I’ve ever felt in my mental health journey, and it’s not just by sheer luck.
Everyone’s journey is different, meaning different things will work for different people. Today I want to give you some recommendations on what has worked for me in keeping my mental health stable. I’m not perfect nor am I “cured” by any means. Keeping yourself mentally stable is something you’re going to have to work on every single day if mental illness affects your everyday life. However, I hope these tips & options help make that a bit easier.
Join a Group in your Community
I recently have started to go to a Young Adult Woman Bible Study, once a week. It helps that my best friend leads it but still, getting involved in my community with woman my age has been really helpful. One thing people don’t tell you is how hard it is to find friends in your 20s. It’s not like college where you have friends from class and your roommates around you 24/7. I don’t even have the opportunity to make friends at work because I work by myself. If I wasn’t involved in this group I would talk to the same three friends, two of whom are long distance.
I’m not saying you need to join a Bible Study (although it has changed my life so I do recommend it) but, join some type of club or group. Having a time where you’re out of your usual environment with people you otherwise wouldn’t meet allows you to push yourself and grow. It’s helpful to see that other people your age are going through similar things, because mental illness can make you feel really alone.
Hearing some stories of the girls in Bible Study has had me nodding my head while thinking “OH MY GOSH!? I’m not the only one who deals with that!?! I’m not some weird failure!?!” There are people out there, your age that understand what you’re going through.
I’ve briefly mentioned therapy here on my blog, and my first session. I spoke more about it in my monthly newsletter (hint hint subscribe down below). For those who don’t know, I started therapy about a month ago and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. I only see my therapist once every two weeks. I’ve started to find that I start to wobble a little mentally when I’m nearing my next appointment which shows me, I’m going to see her at the exact right moment.
The thing with therapy is that it can be really helpful if you allow it to be. You have to be open to doing the uncomfortable work that it takes to become mentally stable. You’re going to dig up things you don’t want to address but are essential to your growth. Talk to your primary doctor and see if they have any recommendations for you.
Therapist aren’t a one size fits all type of thing, which is why I mentioned talking to your doctor. Some specialize in a specific area, some are faith based, some focus on the behavioral aspect and so on. My therapist is faith based and, we start each session with her praying for me and it’s been really amazing. She’s struggled with similar things I do, which has allowed her to be really understanding and helpful with my struggles. Therapy can be expensive, so if you’re worried about the financial aspect but would like to seek help you can check out apps like Better Health or Talk Space. There are tons of online resources that are affordable, you just need to do some research on it.
Learn a New Hobby
When I was younger I never realized how important having a hobby was. Especially during school, my hobby then was getting my school work done and watching tv as my break. Now that I’m no longer in school and I go from work to home nearly everyday I’ve learned how crucial to your mental health having a hobby is.
Whether it’s learning a new sport, a musical instrument, or just reading, having something you can put your energy into will be beneficial for you. We live in a world where putting ourselves first gets looked as selfish. We’re getting better at realizing how important making yourself a priority really is. Learning a new hobby will help you to become a more well rounded person and give you something to do for yourself.
One of my hobbies is baking, I absolutely love to bake. Measuring out the ingredients and seeing this tasty treat come together is really relaxing for me. Also getting to express myself in decorating the treats helps fulfill the creative part of my personality.
Don’t Let Bad Day’s Shake You
The thing with mental health is, even if you’re doing good you can still have a bad day or a bad few hours. The key is that while doing the work to stay mentally stable, don’t let the bad days shake you off course. If you fall down, realize tomorrow is a new day and you can get back up and start fresh. If you are feeling unstable for a longer period of time, seek out the healthiest and most beneficial option for yourself. Maybe it’s one that I mentioned above or maybe it’s not whatever it is, just do what’s best for you.
What are some things that you do to help yourself stay mentally stable? Share your tips in the comments below so that we can all benefit from one another. Thanks for stopping by, until next time…
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