Hey guys! I hope you’re all having a fabulous week! Recently here on my blog & other social media platforms, I’ve talked about how I’m in the best mental state i’ve probably ever been in. While I personally attest my good mental state to my faith, I know not everyone else does. Even with my faith, that doesn’t mean I never have struggles or down days because I 100% do. In this day and age, the lines between real world and the digital world seem to get very blurred. With increasing cyberbullying, the era of instagram models and the overall highlight reel of everyone’s life it can be really challenging to keep a positive mindset.
Today I want to share with you 3 tips on how you can stay positive in a digital world. Before I jump into it thought I do want to say, this is not me bashing social media. Obviously, I love social media you’re reading a blogpost that I wrote & prompted on social media for goodness sake. These are tips simply to make your experience on social media, better, healthier and more positive for yourself.
Social Media Detox
I think one of the best things you can do for yourself is a social media detox. Especially those who WORK is in social media or whose hobbies and dream job are in social media. As a human race we spend a disgusting amount of time on our phones. (Thank you apple for my screen report) Honestly though, how could we not. We have mini computers in our hands at all times. Hell, I’m writing this post on my phone. Gone are the days where we have to be disconnected from society. We’ve become conditioned to believe that if you don’t document it on Instagram it didn’t actually happen. We’ve been taught that our memories are no longer reliable so unless you have your “receipts” you aren’t deserving of trust.
My generation and generations younger than me have intense social anxiety when they aren’t able to hide behind their phones. This is why I think a social media detox is healthy for you. Skills that you learn while being away from your phone are essential to becoming a well rounded person. A social media detox will allow you time to just be, and not feel like you’re under a microscope to all your peers 24/7. I challenge you to try and take a social media detox even just for two nights. Take your mind out of the cloud (literally) and be in the present.
Unfollow The Negativity
For most of us, the positives of this digital world outweigh the negatives. It gives up ways to stay connected to family and friends. It gives us job opportunities generations before us didn’t have and it gives us connections to people or jobs we would have otherwise never connected with. Like how I’ve connected with all of you. However, that doesn’t mean the negative isn’t always lurking in the background. Cyerbullying is a huge epidemic in our society. Teens, adults and celebrities alike can open up their phones and be bombarded with negativity & harsh words.
We live in a day where “canceled culture” is huge. Canceled culture is when someone publicity makes a poor choice, whether intentional or not and are immediately thrown to the wayside. This is teaching younger generations that failure is not an option, that learning from your mistakes is not an option. Obviously there are situations where “canceling” someone is the right thing to do. Sadly we also live in a world where racist, sexist and power abusive people become multimillionaires because they know how to blend eyeshadow. As a whole though, cancel culture is a negativity based narrative that we should unfollow.
You should also unfollow anyone who is making you feel shitty about yourself. It’s important to remember that you have no obligation to follow ANYONE on social media. I mean, look at Beyoncé she doesn’t follow anyone & she’s thriving. Granted 99.9% of her thriving is because she’s Beyoncé but, you get my point. If a girl you were close to in high school is posting pictures in her bikini because she now lives in Hawaii and it’s making you feel bad about your life, unfollow.
Remember It’s A Highlight Reel
My final tip on staying positive in a digital world is remembering that social media is a highlight reel of people’s lives. While people are starting to get more vulnerable on social media, it’s still controlled by someone who can make it sound how THEY want it to sound.
Majority of people aren’t going to post about how they’ve been so depressed that they haven’t showered in a week, they’re going to post when they feel good and are out enjoying life. Someone may be posting about the good grades they’re getting in the class you’re struggling in but, what you don’t know is that it’s their third time taking the course.
Try to take a step back and realize as a society we try to cover up our flaws and failures. We aren’t going to post them onto the internet where anyone can see. That would take away our power and God forbid we give up our power.
My Challenge For You
These are three tips that I believe can help you live a more positive life that seems to be getting taken over by the digital world. To wrap this post up, I want to leave you with a challenge to try this week. I’ll give you a couple options and I’d love for you to tell me which one you pick in the comments. I challenge you to take a two night social media detox, unfollow ONE person who makes you feel bad or doubt yourself and comment something nice on 3 peoples (people you don’t normally comment on) instagram post. So, what do you do to live positively in this digital world? Let me know down below. Good luck on your challenges, thanks for stopping by. Until next time….
Be Nice. Be Good.